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This is not going to be a happy Miss H blog.

I am not in a very happy mood. Franky I am pissed off! I am going to have a bit of a rant.

I have just spent the past 36 hours experiencing first hand the reality of mental health issues with someone close to me.

What has been more upsetting is the so call ‘stigma’ associated with mental illness and the resistance or in some cases, refusal, to seek help for fear of being exposed and judged!

Depression and anxiety is an illness. It is not a god damn weakness. In fact, it is a sign that you have tried to be strong for too long!

If you break a bone, become physically ill, you seek treatment, right? You don’t walk around with a broken arm, untreated cancer or burst appendix for fear of appearing weak or soft.

But, if you are experiencing mental illness-we’ll, apparently that’s a different story! Why? Because it’s all in your head!

I think not. It is an illness which requires treatment.

And who are we to judge others! When did we become a society of individuals who’s favour pastime seems to be judging others!! Are we all perfect. “Let he who is without sin cast the first stone”.

I am sorry if I offend but I have never met a perfect person yet!!!

A number of years back I worked with adult with disabilities. I always remember a fabulous trainer, Miss Janet saying “we all have disabilities, some of us have just learnt to mask ours better”. In another training course she said “to truly understand someone you need to get down off your mountain, climb up someone else’s mountain and see what their view looks like”.

I am sick of the judgement of others, the bullying-school yard, workplace, online even ‘My Kitchen Rules’ has turned into a ‘let’s see who can be the nastiest team’. I thought it was suppose to be a bloody cooking show.

I am sick of tall poppy syndrome-it is rampant in this country. Why can’t we be happy for others. Celebrate each other’s success and achievements. Instead, we seem to tear people down! Jealousy perhaps!

I am sick of the gossiping, bitching and the exclusion of others. I’m sick of people being unkind to each other. Unkind! Honestly, how hard is it just to be kind towards somebody nowadays.

I am sick of people using others as psychological punching bags because of their own insecurities and self esteem issues. I think it is about time we all accepted responsibility for our own lives and happiness. Focused on our own lives before we even start thinking about judging others.

Like I was taught as a child “If you have got nothing nice to say then don’t say anything at all”.

Let’s all stop hiding behind masks. Lets unmasked. Let’s start conversations. Let’s develop empathy towards each other. Let’s start being authentic with ourselves and each other. Being authentically you is the best gift you can give yourself and the world.

Here’s me -unmasked. I have experienced depression during my recovery period! Am I weak. Hell no! I just tried to be strong for too long!

I had a fabulous psychologist Miss Renee who has given me strategies to work with. Would anyone care to judge me???

Should I not have undergone surgery on my leg. Should I not have undergone physiotherapy so I could walk and ride again?? Should I have just “woman up”??

Remember this. A disability like mental illness can be acquired-you never know when something could happen to you or a loved one! So let’s not sit back in judgement but stand and embrace others who are experiencing challenges.

Let’s stamp out ‘stigma’. Let’s just be kind to each other. Please.

“We are all just humans trying to survive in this crazy world in the spaces between birth and death” -Melody Lee

Heather Ward

Miss Heather Ward is an author, motorcyclist, travel blogger and motivational guest speaker. She uses her motorcycle and travel experiences to empower people with the courage to live life @ full throttle.Her book, speaking topics, workshops and stories are her tools to make shift happen. To motivate people to go out and do what makes them happy; create their own journeys and follow their own road maps.

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