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I have found myself being used as someone’s ‘physiological punching bag’. Why? Because the individual is unhappy in their life. 

I don’t need to go into details. It comes down to one thing. ‘Someone not taking responsibility for their own life and happiness’. 

It’s not the first time I have been used as someones ‘physiological punching bag’. Sadly, even by those most closest to me. On every occasion the common denominator has been someone not ‘taking responsibility for their life’. 

So let’s take a look here for a minute. We are bombarded with those words ‘take ‘responsibility for your life’ but what do they really mean?  

Taking responsibility means never ever blaming others for where you’re at in your world. Realise, you are where you are, in your life because of choices you make-past, present and future. 

So, if you discover, down the road, you’re not happy with some of YOUR choices-don’t go blaming others. 

Realise, you are choosing to stay in that lousy job, to over extent yourself financially, stay in a crappy relationship. You choose how family and friends treat you by the boundaries you set. You choose to be mad at the world and everyone in it. You choose to be a victim. 

I understand it’s hard to accept responsibility.  For most people they think it’s about having to admit ‘they have messed up’. Who wants to admit that aye. So much better to blame something or someone else “ohhhh well it wasn’t my fault because” <insert long list of excuses here> or <insert long list of people to blame here>. Who needs the shame and embarrassment aye!! Being a victim is a great excuse! It’s the ‘get out of jail free’ card! 

But here’s the thing. Playing the victim just keeps you stuck. Ohhhh, it’ll get you attention and sympathy. And, get you off the ‘responsibility’ hook. But, you will stay stuck-becoming angry , bitter, envious, sad, manipulative, joyless, full of self pity and using others as a physiological punching bag’. Like I said. Stuck! 

When you take full responsibility for your life,  stop blaming others and circumstances you begin to take control of your life. And that, is where the power is-within you. 

You have the power within to travel your own road and enjoy the journey.


Miss 🙂 x

Heather Ward

Miss Heather Ward is an author, motorcyclist, travel blogger and motivational guest speaker. She uses her motorcycle and travel experiences to empower people with the courage to live life @ full throttle.Her book, speaking topics, workshops and stories are her tools to make shift happen. To motivate people to go out and do what makes them happy; create their own journeys and follow their own road maps.

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